If my early 20s were about chasing dreams with unfiltered enthusiasm, then my late 20s became a time of unexpected clarity. Not always comfortable clarity — sometimes, it showed up in the form of heartbreak, burnout, or the quiet realization that what I thought I wanted... maybe wasn’t it after all.

Now that I’m standing at the edge of a new decade, I’ve been reflecting on the lessons that hit hardest — and what I want to do with them moving forward.

1. Success Looks Different for Everyone — And That’s Okay

I used to measure my life in milestones: degree by 22, great job by 25, engaged by 28, house by 30. But life doesn’t always move in straight lines. I’ve seen friends take sabbaticals, build businesses, change countries, or start over from scratch — and thrive. I learned to stop comparing timelines and instead focus on alignment: Does this path feel right for me?

Next Step: Stop chasing someone else's version of success. Define my own metrics — peace, purpose, growth.

2. You Can Outgrow People — And That’s Not a Betrayal

Friendships change. Some deepen with time, others fade out gently, and a few end in quiet goodbyes. I’ve learned that it’s okay to release connections that no longer serve who you’re becoming. Not with resentment — but with gratitude for the season they walked with you.

Next Step: Invest in relationships that feel mutual, honest, and energizing. Let go with grace when it’s time.

3. Health (Mental and Physical) Is the Real Wealth

I used to burn out and call it “being productive.” But in my late 20s, I started paying attention to the signals — the fatigue, anxiety, short fuses. I realized rest isn’t laziness. It’s essential. Therapy helped. So did better sleep, walking without my phone, and saying “no” more often.

Next Step: Prioritize habits that support long-term wellness — not just survival.

4. No One Really Has It All Figured Out

Behind the curated photos and job titles, we’re all just figuring it out — often one decision at a time. Some of the most “together” people I know are still navigating deep uncertainties. That realization gave me permission to breathe. I don’t have to know it all. I just need to keep showing up.

Next Step: Allow room for curiosity and mistakes. Keep learning, without shame.

5. Dreams Can Evolve — Let Them

I used to think changing direction meant failure. Now I see it as growth. Maybe the dream you had at 22 isn’t what fits you at 29 — and that’s a sign you’ve grown. You don’t owe the old version of you eternal loyalty. Let her go with kindness.

Next Step: Give myself permission to pivot. Rewrite the story if the plot no longer excites me.

So, What’s Next?

I don’t have a 5-year plan neatly mapped out. But I do know this:
I want to live more consciously, choose more bravely, and love more deeply. I want to spend less time proving and more time being.

In my 30s, I’m not chasing perfection. I’m chasing presence.

And maybe, just maybe — that’s enough.