Often we are not mindful of our bodies, at one moment, our thoughts drift somewhere, about family, work, past mistakes, today's news, our future, the future of the earth, or the cruel conflicts we see on social media, we let this anxiety dominate the story. There are times when we need a pause. 

2. What you think does not necessarily happen

The things that continue to bother me during 2019 are things that haven't happened yet, a thought that I think exists when we are faced with a reality, where you are really confused, about whether the life you are living is according to your expectations (you get me right? :p).

3. Everything must have away

After what I've passed in the last year, we are the ones who want to make life choices, but in the end, there is a power that directs us to other life choices, opportunity after opportunity, whether we realize it or not. Who knows our way of life, other than us who live and also the great power that rules fate and governs with whom we will meet.

4. Try your best, then tawakkal.

Last year, I tried to make a goal, a goal that can move me, which makes me wake up every day with enthusiasm. Dreams of wanting to study abroad. Pursuing wholeheartedly, trying to divide oneself, between the new things being learned and also a transition period.

From there, I learned, it is our nature to try our best, prepare, and try our best. But after? Then do what is called surrendering. Can't get what you want? It's okay, next time we can try again. Don't get it now? Maybe next year, or the next year again or the next year again, again and again.

To the point where you realize, maybe it is not your way, but believe me, all the struggle will not be in vain, there is always every piece of the lesson that you have got.

5. Everything will be alright

Or should you? The things that happen in life, it should be seen that way. Stuck while looking for a way out? Maybe you should take a break. Trying to loosen tangled threads. Everything will actually be fine until it is only in our own minds telling us that this will not be good.

6. Practicing mindfulness 

One of the things I do is step meditation, it makes me walk on my breath. This made me know myself. You can even do it by cleaning the room. Knowing ourselves, we can acknowledge our suffering and look for problems to the root. With mindfulness, you may find the same serenity.

Always remember, our way of life is certainly different from other people. We cannot compare what we have got, they got and it has reached the point where they got it. It is we ourselves who have to keep trying to improve ourselves which should be better than we were before.

Remember to always focus on yourself first my friends! 

Kind regards,

Alya Lihan.

•       Going to see the mother nature is first one I think, because I live near the beach sometimes I just go with my friend and relaxing, between my tight schedule, I  have couple time to go to the beach, even though I have few task to finish I just go to the beach without hesitate. Maybe you can swim, just walk side by side with your friend and tell him/her about your problem or just chitchat, don’t forget to bring beach towel or fabric that cover you from the sand and bring some books, magazine, IPod and enjoy the sunset. The beaches that I like to visit are, Blue Point/ Suluban beach, BTDC beach, Green Bowl, or Kuta. Oh, you can also just sleep and relax. If you stay in the city find a park, or forest near your location, just find another place, and have fun of course.

•            Just walking and visiting shop I think it’s good idea, beside you can add your knowledge about something you don’t know before, like I did one month ago to go to beachwalk just seeing some Terrarium or plant pots, and they are just so cute but expensive for me, or you can find some decorations for your room , just find something that you like, you don’t have to buy it, just see I think it’s okay, I like to take picture of something  that I like, like this, I don’t even buy it hahahaha.

•       Talking with strangers, when I visited Blue point I suddenly met an old man just asking me few question, just ordinary things so why not to talk with strangers with smile, and one thing I got from him was, “if you got to spend New Year eve in Kuta you should bring a plastic bag and put it in your head”. “So why?” I asked. “Well, a chemical in the firework is not good for your hair”. And he gave me advices where to go in Bali.
•       Go to book store, maybe I’m a kind of people who like to read, because you know you can add your knowledge not just about your subject in school but about the world. I love to go to the bookstore for buying or just seeing the book, if there’s no seal on it, I can read a few things’s, and add my idea about something. By the way, going to the bookstore is free, so why not?
•             Having a cup of coffee near the beach or streets, seeing the busy life, write or going to Starbucks, I love doing that things, well just want to find some peace in here.
•       Go to the museum, or art galleries, I think it’s a wonderful thing because sometimes people need to feel. You can take the picture about things that you like too.
•              If you are a creative person why don’t you make some DIY, there’s nothing to lose about doing that. You can watch from YouTube about DIY, and do it. Just do and try. Its modern time guys, so if you wonder how to do, you can search in pinterest or instagram.
•        Listening to the music you love and read nice books. Well, if you don’t have any playlist just open 8tracks and you’ll find perfect playlist for the perfect mood.